Protocol · Personality science × time-use methodology → behavioural mirror

The HEXACO Calendar Audit

Your calendar knows you better than you do.

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INPUT: 90 days of ICS calendar export OUTPUT (excerpt): Honesty-Humility 2.8 / 5.0 (- significant gap from self-report 4.2) Emotionality 3.1 / 5.0 (= matches self-report) eXtraversion 4.6 / 5.0 (+ above self-report 3.8) Agreeableness 3.4 / 5.0 (- below self-report 4.5) Conscientiousness 3.0 / 5.0 (- below self-report 4.8) Openness 4.3 / 5.0 (= matches self-report) LARGEST GAP: Conscientiousness. Your calendar shows 41% reactive meetings booked <24h notice. You scored yourself "very high" on planning. Pick one.
The audit output. Behaviour vs self-report, scored per factor.
What you need to know
  • HEXACO 6-factor model
  • Big Five vs HEXACO distinctions (the Honesty-Humility axis)
  • BLS American Time Use Survey methodology
  • ICS calendar export format
  • embedding-similarity classification
  • the introspection illusion (Pronin)
  • base-rate neglect when scoring yourself

If a name is unfamiliar, that's the gap. The list is the curriculum.

The recipe
  1. 01

    Export 90 days of calendar to ICS. Strip names; keep titles, durations, and event types.

    bash
    curl -o cal.ics 'https://calendar.google.com/calendar/ical/.../basic.ics'
  2. 02

    Classify each event into a behavioural category (focus block, reactive meeting, deep work, social, admin, exercise).

  3. 03

    Score each category against each HEXACO factor on a tagged rubric. Use Claude with embeddings, not vibes.

  4. 04

    Take the HEXACO self-report inventory once (60 items, ~12 minutes).

  5. 05

    Compute the per-factor gap between calendar score and self-report score.

  6. 06

    Investigate the largest gap. That is the lie you tell yourself about yourself.

  7. 07

    Re-run quarterly. The gap moves only if you do.

Receipt
My calendar disagreed with my self-report on Conscientiousness by 1.8 points.
Self-rated 4.8/5; calendar-derived 3.0/5. Forty-one percent of last quarter's meetings were booked under 24h notice. I had been telling myself a story about being a planner. The data refused to confirm it.
Why it works

Self-report personality inventories suffer the introspection illusion: you score yourself on the trait you wish you had. Calendars are honest because they were written for logistics, not identity. Mapping calendar behaviour to HEXACO factors creates a behavioural mirror with the same axes as the self-report. Where they diverge, the calendar wins. The gap is the most actionable data you own.

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